照顾者的思考：什么是我的目的是什么？

Mike Charnock of Houston was treated for high blood pressure and enlarged lymph nodes before doctors found the real cause. On July 26, 2010, at age 35, he was diagnosed with stage IVlung cancer, which had spread to his brain.

与脑部手术在他的皮带和强大的混乱关系atment plan, Mike is defying the odds every day. His wife, Lyndie, shares her experiences as a caregiver to encourage others that complete faith and a good attitude may help them do the same.

“我知道未来不了的事，但我知道谁掌管未来。”- 作者不详”

你有没有醒来你领导的生活，你做的事情的思考，并问自己，“什么是我的目的是什么？”

我不得不承认，我问自己，在我的生活了好几次。我不能说我有一个“完美”的生活方式，通过任何手段。我犯了许多错误和很多错误的选择，而我的信念继续解除了我，让我重新回到我的脚，并指出我在正确的方向。

这感觉就在昨天，就像是当我们坐在医生的办公室，得到的消息迈克的cancer diagnosis. But as I sit here and look at my calendar, I realize it has been a little more than a year. Wow!

当我们收到了关于麦克的治疗方案的信息，我们被告知，如果它不工作，他将有5-6个月的生活，可能不会庆祝他的生日在2011年。

I did not take the news well. I drove home from work, barely able to see through the tears. I stopped in the grocery store and bought the biggest bottle of wine before arriving home. Mike and I sat in the back yard until 1:00 a.m., drinking, crying, laughing and sharing stories we'd never talked about before.

我记得通过红，肿的眼睛看着他，说：“不管是什么，从今往后，我们在这个看作是一个旅程，是积极的。我们不会生闷气或沮丧，因为我们不知道在这个时候为什么我们选择，但它是什么已经给了我们。”

Yesterday, we received news that Mike's scans were clear and there were no signs of cancer. The night we sat in the back yard, crying at the moon and guzzling wine, we turned it ALL over to our faith and we knew it was going to be OK.

后来，当我分享我们与家人和朋友的好消息，我说，“我是在完全的敬畏，我不能相信这个！”有人告诉我，“Lyndie，不要现在就开始躺在你总是知道迈克会得到医治。你要求它！”我坐在那里一秒钟，然后说：“你知道吗，你是对的！”我确实这样做了要求它一年前。谢谢你，上帝，听力祈祷。

As I write this, I truly know in my heart that though there are many times I felt that I did not know my purpose, I'm glad and thankful that God knew all along.

作为一个照顾者是不容易搭
作为一个照顾者是不容易搭, even for me. I doubted myself many times. There's so much information about cancer that's thrown in your lap.

From one caregiver to another, my advice is to maintain a positive attitude. I know it's not always easy, especially when you're trying to accommodate every need, and you are "dog tired" from a long day at the office (or caring for other family members). But positivity remains the best medicine for the one you love.

我赞扬所有谁是战斗这种疾病，包括护理人员。这一天你会得到电话问你加入你的心爱的人的测试结果是你的生活永远改变的一天。我自豪地称你是我的兄弟姐妹们在这个旅程中，我们意外地给出了胶靴和一把铁锹，继续采取一切步幅。

Every day, I am thankful for MD Anderson and what they are doing for my family.

迈克现在是全职工作了。但是，作为一个妻子/照顾者，我的工作是永远做不完的。我认为不能离开我的礼物：从我都沿着这条旅程遇到的其他照顾者的实力，经验以及，最重要的是爱。

我鼓励你使用所有MD安德森的网络，因为我遇到了这么多的人谁我可以涉及到，谁现在我给朋友打电话。

If you find yourself asking, "What is my purpose," do not lose faith or hope.